tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7099839503035686703.post1655726980671883728..comments2023-05-05T08:12:06.173-07:00Comments on A Spiritual Journey On Planet Earth: A Nervous BreakdownUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7099839503035686703.post-4692745636117458872009-02-12T18:28:00.000-08:002009-02-12T18:28:00.000-08:00I love your blog. It's so direct. People say they ...I love your blog. It's so direct. People say they want that and then the are afraid to deal with it. You're fresh air. Thank you. You're saying great social stuff. Hope you are listen to yourself talk, too. You're also one of the voices.<BR/>I'm having trouble accessing somehow. Don't know if it's the twitter part or what.Ted Bagleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07740863843616685808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7099839503035686703.post-20890582229217284072009-02-11T03:22:00.000-08:002009-02-11T03:22:00.000-08:00Spot on, Pardes. For one thing I wish that men wou...Spot on, Pardes. For one thing I wish that men would realize how emotional women can sometimes be without it meaning half as much as they think. Secondly, I wish they would realize that their actions cause us to fret and ruminate for ages afterwards. Women spend a f*** amount of time trying to understand men but do they care to understand us?<BR/><BR/>Of course, it's easy to move on if you have something to move on to. To Anonymous I guess I still would like to say that the situation wasn't the same as described by A. It was quite short and a great promise of friendship. Where on Earth did the romantic aspect enter the picture? How conceited to think that romance can happen online without you even seeing the person, in a matter of days. I strongly suspect there were other ulterior motifs behind the need to take things in charge and break the contact that where all the more hurtful for all the talk of honesty and authenticity. Of course I was hopeful and happy and certainly not adverse to a romantic outcome, but I find it highly offensive when people assume things like that about me and refuse to talk about the feelings openly. If you're on a quest of honesty, then surely that would first of all mean being honest about your feelings, fears and anticipations? <BR/><BR/>Well, my blog is about a breakdown and that's why I'm rambling. I just can't take anymore of these sort of incidents, and naturally feel very apprehensive about new ones that might come along. It's not nice to be both burned and burn out. My opportunities of making great friends are so slim, I don't think anyone can even begin to imagine how slim they are. It's easy for all of you to think differently when you have a huge continent at your disposal, one on which everyone speaks the same language... For those who have been attentive and read other blogs of mine, it's maybe clearer that I'm the minority of a minority of minorities.... Tucked away at the corner of the end of the world. <BR/><BR/>Ok, I'm rambling. This is part of having a nervous brekdown, pardon me... Thanks for your inputs, they are appreciated.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10279912682706845983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7099839503035686703.post-59027092098485444892009-02-10T19:56:00.000-08:002009-02-10T19:56:00.000-08:00oops a typo correction that really wont make any s...oops a typo correction that really wont make any sense uncorrected.<BR/><BR/>it should read, irresolvable pain or your "fear" or "overstreesed" sensor alarms are going off.Cloistervoiceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00639569307312445782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7099839503035686703.post-73503994715820045792009-02-10T19:54:00.000-08:002009-02-10T19:54:00.000-08:00The photograph is so on target for the subject mat...The photograph is so on target for the subject matter....all sharp edges sticking through ice.<BR/><BR/>I know the urge to understand what went wrong is strong but it's also an impossible thing to determine.<BR/><BR/>It took many decades for me to stop trying to do a post mortem analysis about a failed relationship. I think we just have to rely on our instincts to exit things where there is either irresolvable pain or your "fear" or "overstreesed" semsprs are going off.<BR/><BR/>Be kind to yourself and allow yourself the freedom to trust your instincts. Thank goodness we are writers and can write it out as you did here quite eloquently.<BR/><BR/>Meanwhile, just take another breathe and move on.Cloistervoiceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00639569307312445782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7099839503035686703.post-60377153093330827492009-02-10T13:02:00.000-08:002009-02-10T13:02:00.000-08:00Hi, thanks for leaving an elaborate comment! Well,...Hi, thanks for leaving an elaborate comment! Well, the reason I'm complaining this much is that I've had a serious of incidents like this for a period of time and my condition doesn't allow me to deal with stress. So I feel it's breaking me down big time. Mentally I can deal with these issues much better but the stress is very hard.<BR/><BR/>Of course, you do have a point. I think that unfortunately at this point in time I'm a bit desperate. I'm getting old and have not yet had the kind of life I'd have wished for myself. For reasons unknown, maybe just growth. The need to connect on a deeper level with people is getting stronger, as time is ticking away and, well, for other reasons too. I admit it's hard for me at this point to appreciate a time I had and hope another good one comes along. I don't have much physical strength so it wears me out to make friends just to see them go. It could be a question of attitude too, sure... <BR/><BR/>Thank you for your kind words. It's sometimes easy to lose sight of our specialness when others treat us cruelly. Not saying I don't take any responsibility for my experiences, only that some of it hasn't felt quite fair. Don't know how else to say it. People aren't always sensitive enough, especially not on the internet. I think that's pretty much common knowledge already. Thanks for sharing your own experience, it was enlightening - I mean it helps me to understand why some people choose solutions that seem hurtful and odd. :-)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10279912682706845983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7099839503035686703.post-68541380785564194332009-02-10T11:31:00.000-08:002009-02-10T11:31:00.000-08:00It sounds like you are taking this guy too serious...It sounds like you are taking this guy too seriously. But it's not like I can criticize because I've done the EXACT same thing before. I made a friend and then started to see things between us that weren't there. I saw it happening, and withdrew before it became a problem. I allowed my unhappiness to live its life (the life of an emotion can be long and torturous if you try to stifle it), and then I surpassed it. I felt a love, a connection, that wasn't shared... and it was so hurtful! I didn't think I could connect with someone so quickly and completely, without them feeling the same. But now I'm just happy to have met that person, to have shared a few good times with them.<BR/><BR/>There are always limitations to relationships. Unconditional love is so rare; I don't think even our parents love us unconditionally, most of the time. But anyway, you have to appreciate the relationship for what it was. If it made you feel good for a time, then it was a valuable experience. Not every connection we make with people is going to last. Very rarely do they last! But when a true lasting connection is finally made, it is all the more special for being so rare. <BR/><BR/>Having said all that crap... now I have to say I'm sorry to hear you had a bad time with this man. But you are special and perfect just how you are, Vivi-Mari, and you don't need me or some American guy on the internet to tell you that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com